It’s Friday night and she has no plans. She received a text from him this afternoon, but she didn’t take the bait. She feels he’s always waiting for her to make the first move, as if he’s unsure, ambivalent. It seems he ONLY texts her on Friday afternoons, as if she doesn’t exist for him during the week, and he only remembers her after he hasn’t solidified other, better plans.
“I am not an afterthought,” she thinks to herself.
Over two decades ago, and on the recommendation of her sister, she read a popular dating book called, “The Rules.” Her best friend at the time gave her a lot of grief for obeying some of the book’s suggestions. A lot of grief. While some of the rules were silly and outdated, two concepts spoke to her – First, believe that you are unique and special and, second, don’t waste time with men who don’t treat you like you’re unique and special. One of the specific rules instructed readers not to accept a Saturday date after Wednesday (when she followed this rule, it drove her friend crazy) – in other words, don’t be an afterthought.
Sure, she delights as much as the next girl in occasional spontaneity, but also believes that if a man is truly interested, he should think about her at some point during the week. She thought about him. Why must he wait until Friday to ask her out? After reading this article in the Huffington Post, she realizes her ideas aren’t so old-fashioned after all. Consistent last minute requests to hang out make us all feel like we are Plan B, even in 2017. And if we continuously make ourselves available, we are encouraging this type of behavior.
The truth is that she’d love to hang out with him this weekend. But she believes she’s more than a Plan B. She hopes he’ll realize this, too. Meanwhile, while he’s figuring it out, she’ll play in her kitchen:
This sweet and spicy(like a good date!)jam makes a quick appetizer when spooned over cream cheese and served with crackers or toast. It’s also tasty as a glaze on shrimp, chicken or salmon…or slathered on a toasted bagel and schmear.
Chili Pepper Honey Jam
I developed this recipe to use up some of the dried chilies in my pantry. I used a combination of Arbol, Guajillo and Puya chilies, but you can mix or match depending on what’s available.
- 6 dried Chile de Arbol
- 2 dried Guajillo chilies
- 2 dried Puya chilies
- 2 Red bell peppers
- 2/3 cup cider vinegar
- 1 cup honey
- ½ cup sugar
- Stem and seed dried chilies. In a medium saucepan, combine dried chilies with 1 cup water and bring to a boil. Turn off heat and let soak for 10 minutes. Meanwhile, stem and seed bell pepper and chop into large chunks.
- In the bowl of a food processor, combine chilies and water with bell pepper. Pulse on and off until ingredients are well chopped.
- Pour ingredients back in saucepan and add cider vinegar. Bring to a boil. Stir in honey and sugar and bring back to a boil. Cook down, stirring occasionally, until reduced and the consistency of jam, about 20 minutes.
- If you plan on canning, follow proper canning procedures or cool and refrigerate jam if using within the next week.
Lovely jam, my older brother usually make a similar one and I was pretty surprised by the flavour 🙂
Oh that sounds so good, I never heard of pepper jam before, will make it for my next gathering, pinned it!
I adore pepper jams and this combination looks fantastic! At first I thought you had used it in the poundcake that’s pictured above and thought, “How clever, that is totally something I would do”. So now I need to make this jam so I can put some in a pouncake! 😉
This sounds nice and spicy. What a great food gift for the upcoming holiday season. Great for all the cheese trays at the parties too.
hello! id love to use your chili pepper jam on my Instagram page if that is ok. I will link back to your blog and add your name. Let me know if this is ok with you!