Take on a New Lover

If something is bothering me, if I’m feeling anxious or confused, if my mind is filled with unrest, I find myself randomly scanning the posts on the “oracle” known as WordPress.

I’m once again feeling vulnerable and uneasy in my relationship.  He’s been gone for the holidays.  We had two great days just before he boarded the plane, but while he was gone for five days, thoughts of me didn’t seem to occupy his brain often.  I received a few photos.  I received a few one or two line texts, but that was about it.  No calls – even on Christmas.

He came home last night.  He said he would call me, but then his plane was delayed so he said he would call me today instead.  In return, I sent him a drunken text about snuggling naked with him.  He never responded…not last night and not today.  No word from him. You can call me a crazy girl if you want, but something feels off.

Now that I’ve set the scene, back to the oracle that is WordPress. I was aimlessly skimming various posts this morning in my current fretful state of mind and came across this, which seemed to be an answer to my question, “why is he pulling back?”  Impulsiveness in love – like sending drunken texts perhaps?  Has he become my “heart’s salvation”?  That’s not healthy – even to my sensibilities.

Is this a case of the old axiom of not putting all the eggs in one basket?  Is my love too much for one man? Perhaps I need to take on another lover – myself.  So, I’m setting him aside today.  He can call me if and when he wants.  I’m finally sending out my resume for a culinary school internship in Mexico, something I’ve been thinking about for months  – and I’m taking myself on a date to yoga tonight.  I don’t need him to love me today – I can love myself.


1 thought on “Take on a New Lover

  1. “Perhaps I need to take on another lover – myself…I don’t need him to love me today – I can love myself.” brilliant!

    congratulations on progressing towards your internship! and enjoy your date tonight!


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